the fine art of being snubbed: taking back the dove

21 Oct

Second lesson in the fine art of being snubbed (see the first here):

Learn how to take the dove back into your boat.

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Yes. We need to know how to do this. We need to know when to release the dove of peace and friendship, of welcome and embrace. And we need to know how to take it back into our boat when it doesn’t find a place to land. As opposed to launching the measured response of our own counterstrike. No. Bring the dove back into your boat.

This was the skill Christ tried to impart to his disciples when he sent them out “as sheep in the midst of wolves.” He warned them that not everyone would be happy to see them, that not every face would receive nor would every door be opened.

Whenever I ask people what Christ told his disciples (that would be us, by the way) to do when they faced the slammed door of rejection, I am invariably told, “He told them to wipe the dust off their feet.”


Well, he did. But he said something else crucial first:

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This is the part we forget.

When you enter a house, you first give it your “Shalom.” You release the dove of peace. If she finds a “son of peace” on which to perch, receiving an olive branch in return, then you can unpack your bags and enjoy the fresh air. If not, it’s not time to go nuclear. It’s time to take the dove back into your boat. It’s time for a Dori moment; it’s time to just keep swimming.

Learn how to take the dove back into your boat.

Then you can wipe whatever residue of rejection is still clinging to your clothes and shoes off and leave it right there, before you move on to the next threshold and again send out the dove.



Posted by on October 21, 2015 in haverings


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5 responses to “the fine art of being snubbed: taking back the dove

  1. ThinkingItOverklclad

    October 21, 2015 at 11:27 pm

    In ‘our” house (church building) we say “come as you are and you will be loved”. Sometimes not as easy for us to act on–but sounds like you did. I am saddened anyone would treat you poorly, Mike, but am not surprised that you would turn it into a soft and beautiful teaching moment for the rest of us. Know that you are loved, appreciated and valued by many more than not. Your smile is infectious and your spirit engaging! I pray today many blessings upon you and yours!

  2. wordhaver

    October 22, 2015 at 1:33 am

    Thank you so much! Your eyes bless me. The truth is on my own I can be pretty nasty! Christ in us. First, always, only, it’s Christ in us…and where we choose to lean…

  3. studentinheels

    October 23, 2015 at 10:22 pm

    Oof-dah. Timely words this week.
    Rejection, my least favorite formation tool.

  4. wordhaver

    October 24, 2015 at 12:01 am

    It’s definitely a toss up between suffering and rejection…


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